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    Mahalaya Paksha


    - Guardian ancestors who will be living in light world (with power equal to Angels, Gods & Goddesses who can bless us for our well being)

    - Departed ancestors who will be living in dark world (unrest souls who can also impact our life)

    It is important to pray for our guardian ancestors, departed ancestors and loved ones, and offer remembrance to them on a regular basis.

    The most DEADLIEST CURSE on this Earth plane for Chinese and Hindus is their departed ancestors’ curse.

    For the past 500 years, most of the Hindus forgot the importance of Tharpanam and suffer in their material life.

    But, Chinese they never fail to observe this ancestral ritual and successful in material life.

    For peaceful and successful life, your departed ancestors must be worshiped and remembered by performing Pitru Pooja or honouring of the past souls during the time of Mahalaya Paksha.

    This two-weeks period is the most important period to appreciate your departed ancestors.

    The souls of our ancestors that have been released, they are able to take their place in the spirit world and if they choose, they can become as a guardian spirit for their descendants.

    They are the ones who protect and guide us, the ones to whom we can appeal for divine intervention for our problems.

    In return, we need to appease them through ancestral rituals like THARPANAM.

    Offering tharpanam on Amavasai day, will give tremendous energy to your departed ancestors to shift to higher world. The secret of overcoming your problems!

    All humans owe a debt of gratitude to the Dévas, Gurus and Pitrukals (departed ancestors). We are all nourished by these spiritual beings and hence we are indebted to them.

    Deva Rina is a kind of debt owed to Lord that can be paid off by leading Dharmic way of living, visiting temples and doing self-less service to Lord and following customs and rituals.

    Rishi Rina are the debt owed to Rishis which can be cleared by living a life of morality and following the rules prescribed in the Siddhantam and sacred scriptures. Finally, Pitru Rina are the debt owed to ancestors can be well paid off by performing homage to ancestors in the form of Tharpanam rituals.

    According to Siddhas (South Indian Mystics) another main reason for all of our everyday problems besides planets is the departed spirits of our ancestors. Our role is that we should constantly connect to the departed ancestors to live a peaceful life.

    Our departed forefathers / ancestors cannot come to this world whenever they want, except on Amavasai (New Moon), the starting day of every month and during Mahalaya Paksha. So, all will come in Sookshma (means not visible to naked eyes) Dehas and if we offer them the sesame (gingili) and water they accept that, and bless us directly.

    The best blessings and worst curses come from your departed parents, grandparents and ancestors. If, your ancestors decide to help you, they can change your life instantaneously.

    There are only three times a year that we can strongly influence and help our departed ancestors elevate to higher plane where, in return they will bless us for our well being.

    - Thai Masam Amavasya :New Moon (15 Jan to 15 Feb)

    - Aadi Masam Amavasya : New Moon (15 July to 15 Aug)

    - Purattasi Masam Amavasya : New Moon (15 Sept to 15 Oct)

    Performing tantric rituals for them is very important for both our material and spiritual enhancement. They can bless us with greater health, wealth, prosperity and enlightenment. Tharpanam is best performed by trained priests on above month of Amavasai.

    The blessings of your deceased ancestors, both maternal as well as paternal, are a major reason why you do or do not succeed in this life.

    Can women do tharpanam?

    Women can do pitru tharpanam just as well as men.

    If there are no sons in a family, does that mean the ancestors should be starved of tharpanam?

    The answer is NO. The daughters can certainly do tharpanam. Preferably, women should use white sesame seeds in their tharpanam.

    Garuḍa Purāṇam, Preta Kalpa Chapter Eight says (Source 1 and Source 2)
    गरुड उवाच -
    स्वामिन्कस्याधिकारोऽत्र सर्व एवौर्ध्वदेहिके । क्रियाः कतिविधाः प्रोक्ता वदैतत्सर्वमेव मे ॥ १ ॥
    garuḍa uvāca -

    svāminkasyādhikāro'tra sarva evaurdhvadehike । kriyāḥ katividhāḥ proktā vadaitatsarvameva me ॥ 1 ॥
    Garuda said -

    O Lord, now tell me who are authorized to perform obsequies and what are the methods of performance prescribed in the śāstras.

    श्रीकृष्ण उवाच -
    पुत्रः पौत्रः प्रपौत्रो वा तद्भ्राता भ्रातृसन्ततिः । सपिण्डसन्ततिर्वापि क्रियार्हाः खग ज्ञातय ॥ २ ॥

    śrīkṛṣṇa uvāca -

    putraḥ pautraḥ prapautro vā tadbhrātā bhrātṛsantatiḥ । sapiṇḍasantatirvāpi kriyārhāḥ khaga jñātaya ॥ 2 ॥
    Sri Krishna (The Lord) said -

    Son, Grandson, Great grandson, his brother and brother's progeny, so also sapiṇḍa progeny - all these are authorized to perform the obsequies.

    तेषामभावे सर्वेषां समानोदकसन्ततिः । कुलद्वयेऽपि चोच्छिन्ने स्त्रीभिः कार्याः क्रियाः खग ॥ ३ ॥

    teṣāmabhāve sarveṣāṃ samānodakasantatiḥ । kuladvaye'pi cocchinne strībhiḥ kāryāḥ kriyāḥ khaga ॥ 3 ॥

    In their absence, samānodaka progeny can perform the rite.

    If both the families are maleless the women should perform the obsequies.

    इच्छयोच्छिन्नबन्धश्च कारयेदवनीपतिः । पूर्वाः क्रिया मध्यमाश्च तथा चैवोत्तराः क्रियाः ॥ ४ ॥

    icchayocchinnabandhaśca kārayedavanīpatiḥ । pūrvāḥ kriyā madhyamāśca tathā caivottarāḥ kriyāḥ ॥ 4 ॥

    In the absence any family or relative, the king may perform all the rites - the preliminary, the middling and the final.

    Also, the Garuḍa Purāṇam Sāroddhāra (Essence of Garuḍa Purāṇam, considered equivalent to Garuḍa Purāṇam and recited widely) in its Chapter 11 (śloka 18) says

    स्त्री वाऽथ पुरुषः कश्चिदिष्टस्य कुरुते क्रियाम् । अनाथप्रेतसंस्कारात्कोटियज्ञफमं लभेत् ॥

    strī vā'tha puruṣaḥ kaścidiṣṭasya kurute kriyām । anāthapretasaṃskārātkoṭiyajñaphalaṃ labhet

    A woman or man who performs the rites for anātha preta (unknown person or friend) obtains the fruit of performing a crore (or unlimited) sacrifices (yajña).

    This (Regarding Anātha Preta rites) is also said in Garuḍa Purāṇam, Preta Kalpa Chapter Thirty Eight (śloka 40) as अनाथप्रेतसंस्कारः कोटियज्ञफलप्रदः

    Facing south, Yagnopavit in Upsvena position (women should keep hair lock on left shoulder), left knee touching ground, right knee up, pavitri removed from anamika finger, one should hold tight two pieces of darbha, bent in the middle, by thumb and side of palm.

    In the olden days, many women underwent Upanayana and studied Vedas. They were called Brahmavadinis

    Manu (2.67) also says that, marriage itself is a "Samskara" and husband is like a Guru and cooking food itself is like a fire-ritual.

    In Srimad Ramayana, we come across an indirect reference to Sita performing Sandya rites.

    Sundara Kanda 14th Sarga 49th Sloka)
    "The ever youthful one with the best complexion, Seetha interested in the rites of Sandhya time will definitely come to this river with the auspicious water for Sandhya rite."

    It is said that in Madurai, Sri Parvathi took the avatar of Sri Meenakshi as only daughter of the Pandya King. After the death of the King, She became Queen and performed Pithru Tharpanam for his father as there was no sons.



    This post is for sharing knowledge only, no intention to violate any copy rights
    Last edited by Padmanabhan.J; 25-09-19, 08:50.

  • #2

    Dear sir,
    Women can do tarpanam, but not using white sesame seeds. They can do tarpanam by a brahmin and not by themselves. And only brahmivadinis should wear poonal like that and do tarpanam. But nowadays there are no brahmivadinis and all are satyovadus. So they should only do tarpanam by a brahmin and not by themselves sir.


    • #3

      Sri Aaravamudhan Sir

      Thanks for reading my post and adding info

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