Varnashrama dharmas

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Rules for performing Jatakarma for Twins (Twins -> Yamalodbhavas or Yamalodbhavargal)
For Male Twins : Karmas from JaataKarma till Upanayanam should be performed in Same Lagna with Same Acharya in Same Vedhikai (Vedhikai - Agni and Manai)

For Female Twins: Jatakarma till Vivaham (For girls, Vivaham is equivalent to Upanayanam) should be performed in Same Lagna with Same Acharya in Same Vedhikai (Vedhikai - Agni and Manai)
For Twins (Male & Female) - Same as applicable above

Sapatni Putras (Yamalodbhavas)
If for a Bhramana two babies were born on same lagna through two wives, if Karmas has to be done on Same Lagna, the following Rule should be observed.
The Karma should be done in two different Vedhikai (Manai + Agni) with different acharyas.

Nandhi is also to be done separately.
1. Eligibility of Girls/ladies for Marriage (Vivahathirkuriya Kanya lakshanam)
The following girls are not to be considered as a Kanya fit for Marriage.
A Girl with brown hair
A Girl stouter than the boy to be married
A Girl having excess hair throughout the body
A Girl having less hair on her head
A Girl having a cat eye
A Girl whose complexion is blackish like hair's black color
A Girl whose name is one of,
Nakshatra (Stars -> 27 Stars namely Aswini, Bharani, Kritika, Rohini, etc)
Tree (Vriksham)
A Girl who is milk white in complexion
A Girl who is taller than average women
A Girl who is shorter than average women
A Girl who has natural moustache
A Girl whose voice is rough (Karakara Swaram)
A Girl whose voice is aloud like Lion/Lioness
A Girl whose voice is like that of a crow
A Girl whose eyes are perfect circle
A Girl who has bad odour throughout her body (Someone like MatsyaGandhi who married Parasara to Yield KrishnaDwaipayana and later called GandhaYojana)
A Girl whose teeth are crooked and twisted
A Girl whose eyebrows are joint
A Girl Who has six fingers on her hands or toes
If a father has ONLY one Girl (Having two kids one boy and one girl seems to be fine) she is not fit for marriage.
A Boy's age should be atleast 1 year greater than girl's age. If not the marriage is not recognized by DharmaSaastram.
Eligibility for a person to perform Kanyka Dhanam (Kartha - Person eligible for performing the Karma)
Father of the Bride

Father's father (Paternal Grandfather) of the Bride


Paternal Uncles (Chittapa, Periyappa)

Maatamahar (Maternal Grandfather)

Uncle (Mother's brother - Maama)

A person belonging to same gotra of Bride's father

A Relative of the bride

If above said people are NOT available then
Persons belonging to same Sutram

Close relatives
Persons not fit to perform Kanyaka Dhanam
Even if a person qualifies with above criteria, if the person is having disease or the person is mentally unstable he is not fit to perform Kanyaka Dhanam.
Activities to be performed during auspicious times (auspicious Times - SubhaKaalam)
Anytime a SubhaKaryam is performed at home, sarees /dresses should be purchased for Sisters of the house and women of the house (Wives, Sisters, Mother, Grandmother and all ladies related to the house)

At no point in time, a Mother should wear saree of her daughter.
Activities to be / not to be peformed during two Sobhanams (Sobhanam -> Time when an auspicious activity like Upanayanam, Vivaham etc is performed)
At no point in time, two sobhanam (Auspicious and mangala Activities) should be performed together.

Marriage timing for Brothers and Sisters :
If there are brothers and sisters in a family, at no point in time, marriage of brother and sister should be performed at the same time.

When doing marriage, the Brother should be wed first following which after 6 months, the marriage of sister can be conducted.
Marriage timing for Two sisters:
If there are two sisters, Marriage should not be done for both of them at the same year. Atleast 6 or 3 month gap should be present between both the marriages.

If between two marriages, there is a change in Varsham it is said to be most auspicious.
Restrictions on Upanayanam:
If a person has two kids, one boy and one girl, once the girl is given as KanyakaDhanam, YagnopavidhaDharanam should not be performed for the boy.

For Two brothers when they are not twins, Yagnopavidha Dharanam should NOT be performed at the same time.
As a general rule of thumb, Two Sobhanams (Sobhanam = Auspicious Mangala Activities) should not be combined.
When in case, if Two Sobhanam has to be combined, then acharyas should be separate.

If due to unavoidable circumstances, Marriage for Brother and Sister from the same mother has to be done at the same time, then those two marriages should be performed in two separate villages or two separate mandapams or two separate Lagnam.
Rules around performing Vivaham for Foster sons (Foster Son -> Sweekara Putran)
For Foster Son (Sweekara Putran) during Marriage, the gotram of the girl and that of the boy should be different and it should not be One of
Gotram of the Boy during his birth

Gotram of the Boy after Sweekaram (After seekaram, Gotram of Boy changes to the gotram of the adopted father)

Gotram of Rishis belonging to the same Pravaram of Birth

Gotram of Rishis belonging to the same Pravaram of Sweekara Gotram.
Rules around Jestha Putra determination after Adoption:
After adoption, the adopted son becomes Jestha.

If a son is born to the foster parents, then the son by birth becomes Jestha and is called by name Orasan

The Adopted son, even if elder becomes a Kanishtan. The Adopted son is called as Uthan

For Marriages, the son by birth should be married first followed by the Adopted son.

Rules around performing Vivaham for sons from co wives (Co Wives - Sapathnee)
The determination of Jestha (Elder) and Kanishta (Younger) brothers between sons from co wives of a Bhramana is dependent upon the time of their birth

The boy/girl born first between co wives becomes Jestha and rest all becomes Kanishta in the order of their birth time

As long as the Father of the kids (Boy/Girl) belonging to the co wives is alive, marriage should be done in the order of Jestha followed by Kanishta

In case if father of the kids have passed away, there is no rule of Jestha/Kanishta between the kids of co wives and no restriction is applicable in the order of marriage.

Vivaha restrictions for Jestha Putra/Jestha Putri (Seemandha Putran/Seemandha Putri):
Marriage should not be performed on the following day(Vaaram)/thithi/Month/Nakshtram for Seemandha Putran (Jestha Putran)
Month restrictions:
Aani Month (Aani Maadham) - July - August

Janma Maatham (The Month in which the Seemandha Putran/Seemanda Putri was born)
Thithi Restrictions:
Janma Thithi (The Thithi in which the Seemandha Putran/Putri was born)
Nakshatra Restrictions:
Janma Nakshatram (The Nakshatram of the Seemandha Putran/Putri)
Day(Vaaram) Restrictions:
Janma Vaaram - The day the Seemandha Putran/Putri was born
General Restrictions:
The Place where the Marriage is to be performed, if the deities of the place (Village or Town) has Utsavams going on, then Marriage should not be done during the Utsavam (Marriage should be done ONLY after the Utsavams)
Non Intrepretable:
மாற்றுக்கு மறுதலை விவஹம் கூடாது
If a Bhramana has two girls then he should not give both of them into marriage for the same Bhramachari
If a Bhramana has two girls and another Bhramana has two boys then both the girls (Sisters) should not be given in marriage to both the sons of another Bhramana.
Aoupasamam and Sthaali Paakam - Rules around it
By doing "Agni Santhanam=ஆக்னிஸந்தனம்" the Bhramana should perform two Aahudis for the prescribed time

According to Aapasthambar's Matham, Only two Aahudis should be given as a part of AgniSanthanam

Including previous Night's Aahuti (Per Sandhi two Aahudis), four Aahudhis should be given according to Bodhayanar's Matham

According to Yama's Matham, When there occurs two SvisthaKruths (ச்விஷ்டக்ருத்) ONLY one Aahudi should be given.

The Akshadha used in Agni of a Homam or anything that is put inside the Agni should be fully consumed by Agni of the Homam. Until the Akshada or the Havis poured into the Agni is fully consumed, Aoupasanam should not be started. If Aoupasanam is done in that manner, then the Homam done prior to that becomes useless. Also the Kartha of the Homam might get KunmaRoham (A sort of disease).

During Marriage, If Poornima thithi occurs after the prescribed time of Aoupasanam and before the start of Sesha Homam, we can start Sthalibaham. If Amavasya thiti comes instead of Poornima Sthalibaham should not be started (Sthaleebaharambham).

Aoupasanam should be started after the start of Night and within 9 Nazhigai of the start of Night (Nazhigai : 2.5 Nazhigai = 1 hour). In case if Aoupasanam is not started at the start of Night (Within 9 Naazhigai of start of Night) then Aoupasanam should be started next night).

First PoornimaSthaalibhagam should be performed then sthalibagam should be performed. If Marriage happens during Krisha Paksham, the Poornima Sthaaleebagam should be done till Chaturdasi and then Sthaalibagam should be started.

If the month of Marriage is one of Aadi, Puratasi, Maargazhi or Maasi then Sthaleebaga aarambam should not be started.

If Sthaaleebagam is not done during Marriage, it should be done atleast within 6 months after the completion of Marriage.

If Sthaaleebagam is not done within 6 months of marriage, then Punar Vivaham (Re marriage of same couples) needs to be done. (There are certain exclusions that are mentioned in Grantha Lipi which Adiyen is trying to translate but couldn't).

Rules around resumption of Aoupasanam if it has been interrupted
This section is currently in Manipravala (Grantha) Lipi. Adiyen is translating it and would update this section once the translation is complete.
Activities to be performed during Aoupasanam and Loukika Agni
This section is currently in Manipravala (Grantha) Lipi. Adiyen is translating it and would update this section once the translation is complete.
Rules around parting off with a Wife and re marriage
If a wife has any of these qualities, according to Dharma Sastra, a husband has right to void the marriage with her and can remarry another fit girl.
A lady who drinks Sura Panam (A form of Liquor)
A lady who is accused by Sadhus
A lady who does harm to her husband (Harm - Physical and mental)
A lady who is ailing from incurable disease
A lady who insults and harms the servants
A lady who sells items and makes cheap (wrong) profit out of it Or lends money
A lady who wastes the household items (Here Household items includes perishable and non perishable items)
A lady who never begets baby (Male baby)
A lady who begets baby but lets it die
A lady who begets only girl child (Here even if there is a male child this criteria is not applicable)
A lady who talks in such a way that hurts her Husband's feelings
A lady who has jealousness and Dvesham (Anger on someone)
A lady having the above said Dhurgunas (Bad Qualities) can be forsaken by a Bhramana by disolving his marriage with her and he can remarry
If for any other reason than the above mentioned, if a Bhramana forsakes his wife, then his entire lineage would be destroyed and his vamsam would never survive.
When deciding to dissolve a marriage, the following rules should be followed.
If a Lady has not begotten any child, then the Bhramana should take care of such a wife for 10 years and then he can re marry
If a Lady has begotten children but none of them survives, the Bhramana has to take care of such a wife for 12 years
If a Lady has begotten ONLY girl Children then the Bhramana should take care of such a wife for 15 years.
After taking care of such a wife for the prescribed time, the Bhramana becomes eligible for remarriage.
If for any reason, a wife who has only good conduct, gets incurable disease, or becomes infertile, then by making her happy and getting her permission, the Bhramana can remarry.
At no point in time, a Bhramana can do a third marriage. If for any reason, a Bhramana has to remarry for third time, he has to do the third marriage as arka vivaham and then do the fourth marriage.
Rules around Vivaham (Marriage) of Brothers
Without finishing marriage for elder brother, the younger brother should not marry.
If an elder brother is Eunuch or has an incurable disease, or has a hunchback, or blind or deaf or mentally ill (unstable), then the younger brother can marry without completing the marriage of elder brother.
If for any reason, an elder brother not having any of the above defects is not married but has gone to a different country or distant land, then the younger brother has to wait for 12 years before getting married.
In terms of girls also, if an elder sister is not married, then younger sister should not be given in marriage.